Let us deal with the ethics question first, because it is the one everyone is actually asking when they search this.
An obsession spell influences someone’s thoughts, feelings, and awareness without their explicit consent. It creates persistent mental preoccupation, emotional pull, and compulsive attention toward the person who commissioned the working. Yes, that is what it does. No, I am not going to pretend otherwise.
Whether that is ethical depends entirely on your framework. And I want to be clear about mine.
My Position on Obsession Magic
I practice sovereignty-based, decolonised dark feminine spirituality. That means I do not operate from a framework that divides magic into acceptable and unacceptable based on whether it influences another person’s experience. I do not believe in the Wiccan rule of three. I do not believe that all magic must harm none. I believe magic is a tool and that the ethics of using it are situational, personal, and complex — exactly like any other tool.
What I do believe is that you are an adult with the right to make deliberate choices about your own life, your desires, and how you pursue them. I also believe in informed consent — not from the target of the spell, but from you. You should understand exactly what you are commissioning before you commission it.
An obsession spell makes someone unable to stop thinking about you. It does not force them to love you, behave well toward you, or make choices that are good for either of you. It creates pull and preoccupation. What they do with that is still theirs.
What an Obsession Spell Actually Does
The working establishes a persistent energetic thread between you and your target — binding your presence into their awareness at the level of thought, feeling, and attention. They think of you more than they intend to. Your name surfaces without prompting. They feel drawn to check on you, reach out, engage, or return.
It does not manufacture love where none exists. It amplifies existing energetic connection and makes your presence felt more acutely and more frequently. The stronger the existing connection or history, the more readily the working takes hold.
It also does not fix incompatibility. Someone can be obsessed with you and still be emotionally unavailable, fundamentally unsuitable, or a disaster for your life. Obsession is not love and it is not a relationship. It is attention and preoccupation. What you build from there, if you build anything, is separate work.
Who Obsession Magic Is Actually For
In my practice, clients come to obsession magic for several distinct reasons.
Romantic reclamation: an ex they still want, who has moved on or gone cold, and they want that person thinking of them constantly – whether or not they ever reconnect.
Power recalibration: they were the one who cared more, who was more invested, who got hurt. They want the dynamic to shift so that person finally understands what they had.
The benchmark: they want to be the person this individual measures everyone else against forever. Not necessarily a relationship – just indelible presence.
The situationship: something was forming, it stalled, and they want to tip it past the casual threshold into genuine preoccupation.
None of these require moral justification. They are human desires and they are what obsession magic is built for.
When Obsession Magic Is Not the Right Choice
If you want a specific person who is currently with someone else to leave that relationship and choose you — the Come to Me with Third Party Removal working is more appropriate. Obsession creates mental preoccupation. Come to Me creates directional pull toward you combined with dissolution of the existing bond.
If what you actually want is a deep, aligned, soul-level partnership called in — the Soulmate & Divine Partnership Spell serves that intention more cleanly than creating obsession in a specific person who may or may not be your person.
If you are not genuinely prepared for this person’s sustained attention — if you are asking for obsession partly as a test or partly out of temporary hurt — sit with that before you commission. Obsession magic works. When it lands, it lands. Be sure you want this person focused on you before you make it happen.
You do not need to justify wanting someone obsessed with you. You do need to be sure you actually want it – because when this working lands, they will be.
